How to Successfully Reach your Goals
How many of you create goals only to find yourself not feeling as great as you thought you would after reaching the goal?
Same here, beauty!
Before reading any further, I want you to find a piece of paper (or open up a word document on your computer) and jot down the following: #1, #2, and #3. Next to #1, write down a goal you would like to accomplish. Next to #2, write how you will feel when you reach that goal. Next to #3, write when you’d like to accomplish your goal. For example, let’s say my goal is to run the Boston Marathon, I’d simply write “Run the Boston Marathon” next to #1, next to #2 I’d write accomplished, and next to #3 I’d write April 2019.
We’ll return back to this exercise, but first, I’d like to share something with you:
I know all too well what it’s like to be an over-achiever. For full-transparency, I’m constantly working on the perfectionist tendencies that have driven me to feel like I’m not enough. Back in the day, I would find myself constantly writing down goals and making to-do lists for things I wanted to achieve or get done. Most of the time, I would hit my goals only to find myself having a major expectation hangover! Why? Because I thought that reaching my goal would make me feel (insert feeling of reaching whatever goal here). I was trapped in a vicious cycle of creating goals, reaching those goals, and then having expectation hangovers. Sound familiar?
After more time than I’d like to admit, I decided to do some soul-searching around this situation. After doing a lot of inner work, I’ve come to realize that we need to reverse engineer the way we think about goals.
Ready for a major Truth bomb?
Let’s look back at what you wrote down for your goal, feeling, and timeline. Your #2 is your REAL goal, #1 is the road you can take to reach your goal, and #3 is how long you are willing to wait to reach your real goal (feeling). What we’re all striving for, to our core, is the feeling we will get when we reach our “goal.”
The most beautiful and empowering realization I had is that we can reverse engineer the way we think and approach our goals so that we don’t have to wait until (insert whatever timeline you gave for #3) to feel the feelings you associate with reaching your goal. You have the inherent power within yourself to feel those feelings right now, in this moment.
The Law of Attraction says that what we think about and feel, we will attract. So, imagine what would change in your life if you chose to feel accomplished every single day, rather than a year from now when you reach your “goal.”
So, I’m curious…what goal (feeling) are you striving for currently and how long are you willing to wait to reach that goal?